Saturday, May 10, 2014

Mothers Day

It's been just over 2 months since my mother passed away.

At times my mind doesn't believe she has left. 
67 is far to young to leave. There was so much she wanted to do and so much we wanted her to be apart of, but her illness didn't care.

There are times that it seems as though it was yesterday since I was sitting beside her. Talking. Laughing. Holding her hand. 
I even reach for my phone to call her and realize that I  had cancelled her home phone number. So I couldn't hear her voice on her birthday this year.
I couldn't sing her the birthday song.

Tomorrow is mothers day and I again wont be able to see or talk to her.
Wont hear her laugh. Wont hold her hand.

If you have a mother, wife or loved one.. appreciate them as much as you can, when you can. Laugh with them, smile with them, hold them, and share your love with them. Our time is precious and the time we spend with each other is to short.

I hope each of you has a heartfelt, beauty-filled Mothers Day.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Year in Review

This last year has been one of the more difficult experiences of my life.

It tested my sense of family, my view of mortality, my character, and my sense of self. It made question who I was and who I wanted to be.

I had often quoted "Do I live to work or work to live" but did I know what it meant? 

Reality has a way of testing us. Testing our beliefs. Testing the fabric of our being. 

Was I a mask? Did I only let people see what I wanted? Or am I authentic to myself and those around me...?

Life tests us... Our Faith... our perspectives...

I thought I was a healer, but felt like I failed.
Did I? Or did I give all that I could and was all that I offered accepted in how it needed to be.

I strove to be present.... but was I?
Did I devote all of my energy and who I was to the people I was with?
Or was I only partially available.

Life hurts... it bears our hearts and souls to all of those around us and rubs us raw when we least expect it. It rips us open so that we have to expose our tears, our hurt, our laughter, our joy, our love to the those around us that love us.

Life also teaches us when we are ready to listen.
Being present and being willing to receive shows us all the connections around us. Friends, family, nature and even animals show us the beauty when we are in the darkest of our moments. 

It is also ok to love and be loved. It is also ok to be vulnerable. Most importantly its ok to hurt. It means that we are loving others and being vulnerable.

I hope I have learned the lessons from last year and apply them on a daily basis. I hope that this next lesson is learned more easily.

Friday, September 20, 2013

Just a thought

Maybe its the weather changing or maybe its because I work in the city, but as I was driving to my office and passing the many homeless holding signs asking for money for food a thought occurred to me.

Wouldn't it be a better of real estate if all the businesses who have lush landscapes that are cared for... shrubs and trees carefully pruned.... lawns expertly mowed.... planted fruit and nut trees? What if the towns and city's that cared for all of the trees switched them with fruit yielding varieties and welcomed everyone share in the harvest? 

We pay our towns taxes and maintenance fees, why not share in a harvest? To take it a step further, what if each house had at least one tree that yielded fruits or nuts? 

Not only would the family who had the tree benefit, but if the harvest was shared with the neighborhood, you would get to know your neighbor better and build relationships.
Put it on the edge of the yard and welcome anyone who passed by to try the yield.

We complain about people starving in our country but take no steps to help or make a change.
Why not take a small step towards making a difference by helping ourselves, our air quality and community by planting a tree.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

News Media Marketing

Marketing techniques have been mastered to the point it is a science.... branding, stylistic approaches, logos, jingles, product placement and I'll even venture to say subliminal messages. 

Marketing has been researched and mastered.

Broken down, it really is a simple enough concept...
If you get your message in front of an audience enough times, the message will sink in.
The earlier you provide your message the earlier the message will be adopted.

With that knowledge I have to ask, what is the news media thinking?
Why publish so many negative news articles without an equal amount of uplifting stories.
On CNN the top story is about Obama making his case to attack Syria (killing people).
On Boston.com the breaking news headline is a car bomb in Libya.
On NYTimes, two major articles are a chemical strike and attacking Syria.

In early times centralized religious organizations realized that by educating and preaching themes were the easiest ways to change public thinking. Companies like Nike, Coke and Pepsi mastered the message. So what is the fascination with the news media?

I know when I go on Facebook and youtube some of the top rated postings are cats, pets doing interesting things, and uplifting posts. I would like to hope that people would be interested in similar uplifting stories across the country.

Are we, as a people so fixated on the negative of others to make ourselves feel better? I would like to hope not. We can certainly post about issues of politics and harsh actions in other countries, but they can be presented in other ways. 

With messages of hope and humanitarian aid and not just raw violence.